January 21, 2018


Emotionally Focused TherapyEmotionally Focused Therapy: A How-to Manual for Building Strong Bonds in your marriage

EFT is:

  • Empirically validated: It’s one of the few approaches to couple therapy shown by research to be effective – over 70% successful – even with highly distressed couples. An astounding 90% of couples experienced at least some improvement!
  • Based on John Bowlby’s Attachment Theory: As applied to adult love relationships, it recognizes the ongoing need we all have for reliable attachment figures in our intimate relationships and assumes that a secure attachment with our partner provides the solid base that helps us manage emotional distress.
  • An experiential approach: Couples change by identifying and expressing their ongoing need for strong, accessible, responsive emotional connections. Emotions are the focus because they  are compelling and instructive; they tell us what’s important to us.
  • Growth oriented: The focus is on individual and couple strengths and recognizes that human beings have an inherent drive towards growth and healthy relationships.
  • Collaborative: A strong alliance – where couples are the experts on their own experience and can express this in therapy –  is key. The therapist’s role is that of process consultant, helping partners connect their own internal experience with their couple interactions.
  • Focused on the present: While history often plays an important role in shaping our ways of relating, it is the emotionally driven interactions in the here and now that are the focus of therapy.
  • Emotionally engaging: The active, evocative approach is especially effective at drawing out men, who often have more difficulty accessing and expressing their emotions.
  • Clear and concise: Susan Johnson, the principal developer  of EFT for couples, has clearly elaborated a therapy model that relies on attachment theory as the basis for understanding adult love relationships, including the nature of conflict and the change process in couple therapy.

Contact me if you would like to learn if EFT would be appropriate for you.